I have held my fork the same way when eating basically my whole life. Actually not just my fork but knife also. I was brought up being told it was the proper way to hold your knife and fork when eating. It was a pain when I was a kid but as an adult I am glad it was drilled into me. I was having lunch with a friend and he had another friend of his with him. His friend said " why are you holding your fork in that stupid way ". My response was "HUH". He continued with " you can't get anything on it that way, it's upside down ". All I said was it's how I do it because I didn't want a stupid argument.
Over the years as an adult I have seen it is the proper way to hold a fork, not a stupid way. My parents were insistent that we learned proper table manners. The idea of proper manners was sometimes tempered with the comments. Will keep it a little more politically correct than it was said. When my fork was held wrongly I remember my father's comment, " your not in the barn shoveling manure". Have to admit that comment has stuck with me and has keep me holding my fork the way I do.
Our children, I put through the same, I drilled that they had to hold the knife and fork properly. I even used my father's comment on them. I know they hated it growing up, probably thinking I and it were stupid. I know they thought I was a pain in the butt yapping about proper table manners all the time. Was it worth it to them, I hoped it would be when they became adults? Our son Ian answered that for us after he was at a fancy supper. Remember him saying how glad he was that he knew how to hold a knife and fork properly and had proper table manners.
I know it may seem a little silly making a big deal about holding a fork properly. Sometimes what may seem a little silly can be important. But with proper table manners it isn't a silly little thing. When you're at a major supper function, like a banquet or wedding, you will be glad you know the little things in proper table manners.
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